Domestic Violence

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    Violence UnSilenced

  • Issa

    maggie, dammit
    8 Feb 2010 | 6:00 am
    We met the first time when I was six, when his mother started dating my father. (Our parents lived together for a few years and married when I was eleven.) We didn’t see much of each other that first year, because our weekends rarely coincided. When we were around each other, I found him to... [[[Please forgive the partial feed, it is to protect the survivors in the event that any one of these posts should need to disappear from the Internet for any reason. Please click through to read the full story and show your support.]]]

  • Danielle

    maggie, dammit
    1 Feb 2010 | 6:00 am
    My senior year, I was so ready to be done with high school and all of the bullshit. There were boys I had serious crushes on, but nothing ever happened. I didn’t know how to assert myself, how to let them know I really did like them. By this time, my reputation was a disgusting, [...] [[[Please forgive the partial feed, it is to protect the survivors in the event that any one of these posts should need to disappear from the Internet for any reason. Please click through to read the full story and show your support.]]]

  • Girl With a Purpose

    maggie, dammit
    25 Jan 2010 | 6:00 am
    My mother walked out of my life when I was around the age of four months old. At the time, my father was working two jobs trying support my sister and me. One was delivering fliers on the weekends, and the other was a computer sales shop. He had been forced to learn how to [...] [[[Please forgive the partial feed, it is to protect the survivors in the event that any one of these posts should need to disappear from the Internet for any reason. Please click through to read the full story and show your support.]]]

  • 2010 Bloggie Awards

    maggie, dammit
    21 Jan 2010 | 8:23 pm
    I’m not gonna say much here because I’m pretty speechless. So I’ll keep this short and sweet. Violence UnSilenced is a finalist for Best Community Blog in the 2010 Bloggie awards. It’s a huge honor, and regardless of the outcome of the voting, it’s already a priceless... [[[Please forgive the partial feed, it is to protect the survivors in the event that any one of these posts should need to disappear from the Internet for any reason. Please click through to read the full story and show your support.]]]

  • Kimberly

    maggie, dammit
    18 Jan 2010 | 6:00 am
    Now I lay me down to sleep.  I pray the Lord my soul to keep.  Please let me die before I wake.  I pray the Lord my soul to take. I prayed that every night.  EVERY night.  And every morning I would wake up and I just knew that God hated me.  He had to.  Why [...] [[[Please forgive the partial feed, it is to protect the survivors in the event that any one of these posts should need to disappear from the Internet for any reason. Please click through to read the full story and show your support.]]]
 
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  • Keith Groller: Super Bowl most watched TV show ever

    9 Feb 2010 | 7:44 am
    The NFL capped its best season ever in terms of popularity with record viewership on Sunday, drawing an average of 106.5 million viewers and beating the M*A*S*H series finale in 1983 as the most-watched program in television history.

  • Actor Gary Coleman Pleads Guilty in Utah Court

    9 Feb 2010 | 7:43 am
    Former child television star Gary Coleman pleaded guilty Monday to a misdemeanor criminal mischief charge related to a domestic violence incident last April.

  • Arraignments

    9 Feb 2010 | 7:33 am
    Eighteen people appeared for arraignment Monday afternoon in Marion County Common Pleas Court to plead not guilty to cases filed against them.

  • Mardi Gras celebration to help fund PDC

    9 Feb 2010 | 7:33 am
    A Cajun feast is planned for Friday's Mardi Gras celebration to benefit Marshfield's Personal Development Center, which provides domestic violence and assault services.

  • U-Haul slams police vechiles during pursuit

    9 Feb 2010 | 7:32 am
    A high-speed chase ended in National City when a man driving a large U-haul truck crashed into two law enforcement vehicles, following a domestic violence incident, Tuesday morning.
 
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    Domestic Violence and the Workplace

  • Associate Attorney General Perrelli, Senators Announce Passage of Teen Dating Violence Awareness Month Resolution

    4 Feb 2010 | 8:12 am
    Associate Attorney General Tom Perrelli joined Senators Mike Crapo (R-Idaho), Sheldon Whitehouse (D-R.I.) and Joseph Lieberman (I-Conn.) on January 28 to announce the Senate's passage of Resolution 373, which designates February 2010 as "National Teen Dating Violence Awareness and Prevention Month."Since 2004, Congress has designated the first full week in February as "National Teen Dating Violence Awareness and Prevention Week." However, this year the Justice Department worked with the Senate to designate the entire month of February as "National Teen Dating Violence Awareness and Prevention…

  • Welcome to Break the Cycle - The Newest Member of the Corporate Alliance to End Partner Violence (CAEPV)

    28 Jan 2010 | 8:02 am
    We are pleased to welcome Break the Cycle as our newest CAEPV member!At Break the Cycle, they believe everybody has the right to safe and healthy relationships—regardless of where they live, who they are or what they believe. That is why they work everyday towards their mission to engage, educate and empower youth to build lives and communities free from domestic violence.Break the Cycle offers programs that defy geographic bounds—ensuring that no young person is excluded from receiving the help, tools and information they need to live free from violence. Our success is demonstrated by…

  • January is National Stalking Awareness Month -"Know It. Name It. Stop It."

    14 Jan 2010 | 7:33 am
    This month (January 2010) marks the 7th observance of National Stalking Awareness Month (NSAM) in the United States.Did you know that each year, more than one million women and nearly 400,000 men in the United States are victims of stalking?This year the theme is “Stalking: Know It. Name It. Stop It.” It challenges communities (including workplaces) to combat this dangerous crime by learning more about it and taking action.The Stalking Resource Center and the Office on Violence Against Women has launched the 2010 National Stalking Awareness Month Web site at…

  • Jane Randel of Liz Claiborne Inc. Featured As "Get Inspired! Project" Day 84 Interview

    4 Jan 2010 | 9:18 am
    CAEPV Member, Jane Randel (Vice President, Corporate Communications, Liz Claiborne Inc.), was interviewed for "The Get Inspired! Project" -- a project that interviews one person a day for 365 days about what inspires them.Her interview is Day 84 (Wednesday, December 23, 2009) and appears at http://www.getinspiredproject.com/.Jane is one of the most inspiring people I know – and I know you will be inspired by her interview! (I was honored to be interviewed on Day 63 of this project. What inspires me is all of our CAEPV members and everyone so dedicated to this issue... and especially the…

  • Domestic Violence and the Holidays: What Do You Say?

    18 Dec 2009 | 8:19 am
    So -- it's the holidays and you will be around family and friends that you may not usually see. And what if you see something that you are concerned about? What if you think someone you care about may not be in a safe relationship? Here is the big difficult question:"What do you say to someone if you are concerned that they may be in an abusive relationship?"Here is one pretty good way that I've found to talk with someone -- granted this is my style and everyone has a different style, but it goes something like this: "You know I really care a lot about you. I've noticed you haven't been…
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    Emotional Abuse and Your Faith

  • Botkin Sisters - Feminists or Helpmeets

    9 Feb 2010 | 5:00 am
    I was over at Truewomanhood, and ran across a thread that discussed the Botkin Sisters discussion on Feminists or Helpmeets.  It came to my attention once again that when we place generalizations out there you pretty much miss the boat on your point overall.  The announcer started by talking about South Korea, and how their birth rate has done down drastically.  He will tell you WHY that is of course!  The young women think men are just jerks, and don't want to have anything to do with families.  They want to place their loyalties towards corporations, and if they get…

  • Pastor Charged with Domestic Violence

    4 Feb 2010 | 6:09 am
    The pastor of a Community of Faith Church in a Houston-area church as been accused of domestic violence. James Wallace Dixon, 47, is charged with assault on a family member, a misdemeanor.  His bail was set at $50,000, and he as been released. According to the Houston Con newspaper article: Officials said the charge stems from an altercation Jan. 25 between Dixon and his estranged wife, whose name has not been released. The couple has been separated for about 9 months, officials said.  Investigators said that Dixon went to his wife's home in the 5000 block of Bridge Valley Drive to…

  • Does your church feel safe to you?

    3 Feb 2010 | 1:46 pm
    I was pleased today when I found an article on CBMW about Defenders of Women.  It speaks of the insecurity that some women feel about approaching the church when they truly need help.  When they truly need to be validated, and supported.  One of the stories within the article showed how legalistic people can be, and pretty much throws common sense to the wind. After several years of being battered, I was finally divorced from my husband. I began attending a church and became a Christian. When I talked to the pastor about church membership, his major concern seemed to be whether…

  • Feminism Culprit for families breaking up?

    1 Feb 2010 | 5:00 am
    How is THAT for title to catch some attention? The Council of Biblical Manhood & Womanhood I guess felt it was a GREAT title for a report that basically didn't say what the titled claimed!  Why use it then?  I suppose because its one of the 'pet' evils they like to rally behind, because the report they speak about doesn't say it.  How about website rating?  Attention getter of other types? They tell you that your title should have SOMETHING to do with your piece that you write overall, but it would seem to me it was more of a attention getter instead. The actual report…

  • Seriously - did they really say that?

    31 Jan 2010 | 10:22 am
    I was reading an article over at No Longer Quivering, and it showed another link to:  Seriously??  They said THAT?? Its amazing what people SERIOUSLY say isn't it? Anyone have any others to share?
 
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  • Building Self Love

    30 Jan 2010 | 12:12 am
    Developing a genuine love for ourselves is a great challenge for most people, even more for abuse survivors. It’s also the key to healing. The first step is willingness and the decision to learn to love yourself. That opens the door and begins the process.Since actions speak louder than words a powerful way to develop self-love is by doing things that nurture and support you. One of my favorite things is taking a few minutes to rub some essential oils or lotion into my feet. It feels so good and it is an act of love that says that I deserve kind and gentle care. Shopping is one way that a…

  • Imposed Emotions

    11 Jan 2010 | 12:37 am
    Anyone who’s made the choice to forgive an abuser has probably experienced other people trying to impose their emotions on them. It may seem innocent to hear someone say, “What he did was wrong and you have every right to hate him.” I’ve heard several comments like that. Trust me, they are not innocent.A lot of people have anger and resentments that they cling to as part of their identity. They wear their wounds on their sleeve to gain sympathetic support and use them to justify all kinds of behavior. That’s their choice and part of their path. Its not a healthy place to be, but it…

  • Side Effects

    6 Jan 2010 | 12:36 pm
    One of the side effects of being in an abusive relationship is the deep-set belief that you are not capable of managing things on your own. In fact, it’s one of the first ways that an abuser gains control of his or her victim. They create the illusion of dependency or exaggerate any existing dependency.Once we’re out of the abusive relationship we may find ourselves automatically thinking that we need someone else to solve our problems. We all need help with different things in our lives, but that doesn’t mean we’re dependent. It becomes an issue when we immediately turn to someone…

  • 31 Dec 2009 | 12:31 pm

    31 Dec 2009 | 12:31 pm
    This blog is about healing from victim-consciousness to live as a joyful, empowered person. It began with the desire to share what worked for me in my own healing journey. Though I no longer live as a victim of anyone or anything, I still have a passion for sharing what brings healing to our heart, mind and life.In this new year I will be sharing more from empowerment and less from the perspective of a wounded heart. It’s just not who I am any more. I hope that I can still be of service to those who have made the commitment to take charge of their life and heal their heart, no matter where…

  • Drinking Poison

    30 Dec 2009 | 10:04 am
    I used to think that my recent marriage began to go sour when I was pregnant with our son. The way my husband treated me certainly did change at that time. He had a lot of fear about how we were going to afford our fifth child and it didn’t help that I was very sick all the time.As I was doing some forgiveness work, I realized that I began resenting my husband at the same time that I became pregnant. It had nothing to do with the pregnancy, but with his impulsive irresponsibility with money and with taking advantage of me. Both behaviors developed into a pattern that continued until…
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    Sanctuary for the Abused

  • Building Self Love

    30 Jan 2010 | 12:12 am
    Developing a genuine love for ourselves is a great challenge for most people, even more for abuse survivors. It’s also the key to healing. The first step is willingness and the decision to learn to love yourself. That opens the door and begins the process.Since actions speak louder than words a powerful way to develop self-love is by doing things that nurture and support you. One of my favorite things is taking a few minutes to rub some essential oils or lotion into my feet. It feels so good and it is an act of love that says that I deserve kind and gentle care. Shopping is one way that a…

  • Imposed Emotions

    11 Jan 2010 | 12:37 am
    Anyone who’s made the choice to forgive an abuser has probably experienced other people trying to impose their emotions on them. It may seem innocent to hear someone say, “What he did was wrong and you have every right to hate him.” I’ve heard several comments like that. Trust me, they are not innocent.A lot of people have anger and resentments that they cling to as part of their identity. They wear their wounds on their sleeve to gain sympathetic support and use them to justify all kinds of behavior. That’s their choice and part of their path. Its not a healthy place to be, but it…

  • Side Effects

    6 Jan 2010 | 12:36 pm
    One of the side effects of being in an abusive relationship is the deep-set belief that you are not capable of managing things on your own. In fact, it’s one of the first ways that an abuser gains control of his or her victim. They create the illusion of dependency or exaggerate any existing dependency.Once we’re out of the abusive relationship we may find ourselves automatically thinking that we need someone else to solve our problems. We all need help with different things in our lives, but that doesn’t mean we’re dependent. It becomes an issue when we immediately turn to someone…

  • 31 Dec 2009 | 12:31 pm

    31 Dec 2009 | 12:31 pm
    This blog is about healing from victim-consciousness to live as a joyful, empowered person. It began with the desire to share what worked for me in my own healing journey. Though I no longer live as a victim of anyone or anything, I still have a passion for sharing what brings healing to our heart, mind and life.In this new year I will be sharing more from empowerment and less from the perspective of a wounded heart. It’s just not who I am any more. I hope that I can still be of service to those who have made the commitment to take charge of their life and heal their heart, no matter where…

  • Drinking Poison

    30 Dec 2009 | 10:04 am
    I used to think that my recent marriage began to go sour when I was pregnant with our son. The way my husband treated me certainly did change at that time. He had a lot of fear about how we were going to afford our fifth child and it didn’t help that I was very sick all the time.As I was doing some forgiveness work, I realized that I began resenting my husband at the same time that I became pregnant. It had nothing to do with the pregnancy, but with his impulsive irresponsibility with money and with taking advantage of me. Both behaviors developed into a pattern that continued until…
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  • Why did I become a lawyer?

    scaccesstojustice
    9 Feb 2010 | 7:44 am
    Most of us begin to fashion a response  to the question when we’re asked “Why do YOU want to go to law school?” And if you’re surrounded by friends who are not in the legal profession, you may hear the follow-up “You’re such a nice person. Why do you want to change?” I replied “I want to help people.” And you know what? Many attorneys in the public interest sector answered similarly. You may not generally think of attorneys as helpful, but take a few moments to ponder “when do I or would I use an attorney?” When a family…

  • Sex assault law gets legal boost (Massachusetts, USA)

    Randy McCall
    9 Feb 2010 | 6:48 am
    Gov. Deval Patrick is expected to sign into law a bill that strengthens the protections for sexual assault victims. Jane Doe Inc., an organization focused on ending domestic violence and sexual assault, says the law creates an enforceable civil restraining order for victims of sexual assault and stalking and closes a gap in protection. The state House of Representatives passed the bill on Monday 153-0. It passed the Senate last November 37-0. More: http://www.bostonherald.com/news/regional/view/20100209sex_assault_law_gets_legal_boost/srvc=home&position=recent

  • February: Teen Date Violence Awareness Month

    sharecentral
    8 Feb 2010 | 11:22 pm
    Teen Date Violence Awareness Information Teen Dating Violence Awareness Month (TDVAM) brings nationa

  • Singer Bill Withers on Tavis Smiley's PBS Show

    blksista
    8 Feb 2010 | 7:12 pm
    H/T to blog Put Me On It, whose proprietor is a big Withers fan. Understand that just because I like

  • There Should Be A Name For This

    solsticemoon
    8 Feb 2010 | 6:08 pm
    I did some searching yesterday and was disappointed but not surprised to find that there is no name for what I experienced.  Nothing beyond abuse, domestic violence, and battered women.  There were some statistics, but nothing specific to describe my experience with abuse. My abuse began strictly as a result of becoming pregnant.  In those 2 months leading up to becoming pregnant, I was on Cloud 9 with my relationship.  I’m still confused about how I feel about this.  Was it real?  Was X honestly loving me the way I thought he was?  Was it all a big lie, a manipulation to ensure…
 
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  • Gloria Allred: Hit or Miss?

    7 Feb 2010 | 9:01 pm
    I was disturbed by the recent publicity stunt of famed attorney Gloria Allred and her client, porn star Joslyn James[photo left], over a company selling golfs balls called "Tail of the Tiger".The balls were produced by a company called Creative Classics out of Canada and are sold with the names and pictures of the 12 alleged ladies with whom Tiger Woods sought sexual pleasure outside his marriage.Now, let me be clear, I have no issue with Ms. Allred, I do however take it as a personal slap in the face when anyone claims that using these specific balls condones violence against women. That is…

  • Is It Good For You?

    4 Feb 2010 | 8:40 pm
    This is a post I've taken from one of the writers of "Time's Up!" Tanya Warrington. It comes from her blog, "Dazzling Wings." Her words always move me.Is it good for you? A short question with huge ramifications.As former victims, we are more likely to base decisions on unconscious questions such as "Will the other person be mad if I say I don't want to do this?" or "I can survive a little more; what difference will it really make?" or "Will my doing this help this other person out?"I am learning that this other-focused way of making decisions is insidious and well ingrained. It may have…

  • Deadly Silence: The Church and Domestic Violence-Today On The Susan Murphy Milano Show

    3 Feb 2010 | 5:49 am
    Scripture deals with “love your wife as Christ loves the church,” and the application is obvious, but none of Paul’s sin lists our favorite parables or stories containing a guy who slaps around his girlfriend or a man who beats his wife when he’s drunk. What’s the payoff for the average pastor who brings this up? Counseling women and hearing embarrassing secrets. And then….divorces. We all know how evangelicals feel about those….or, at least most of them.On this enlighting topic is guest Professional WBT angler (champion bass pro) Karen Rae Elkins. And hosting todays show while…

  • Let's Make A Deal

    2 Feb 2010 | 12:35 am
    Sandra Viramontes, 30, of Chicago, was beaten and bruised covering 90 percent of her body. No one could say for sure how many hours she was unconscious before her mother received a call from her son-in-law saying her daughter needed medical attention.When the mother walked in to her daughter’s home Luis Viramontes, the son-in-law was gone in his place a relative who stood by and did nothing until the mother shouted to call 911. But it was too late. At the hospital a trauma doctor informed the family “they had never seen anybody get a beating like that before.” Sandra’s had been beaten…

  • "God Bless you, Susan McFarland"

    31 Jan 2010 | 9:01 pm
    Gone Forever is a story of violence and murder behind closed doors. The book written by author Diane Fanning shows us human behavior at its worst and why people stay in violent marriages that often lead to murder. Even when the acts by a spouse are unacceptable, people look the other way or assume that the person is just "odd." Friends and close relatives are naive and often believe that there will be a magical change in an abuser which as we all know never happens in the real world of family violence.Recently, Diane Fanning wrote a guest blog on Time's Up regarding this case. "When my…
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